Relationships

Books

• Hold me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love | Sue Johnson (2008)
  • Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist Dr Johnson shares her successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships. Dr Johnson teaches that the way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned, and responsive to each other and to reestablish emotional connection. Through stories from Dr Johnson’s practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, you will learn how to nurture, protect, and grow your relationship, ensuring a lifetime of love.
• The Art of Loving | Erich Fromm (1956)
  • In his classic work, The Art of Loving, renowned psychoanalyst and social philosopher Erich Fromm explores love in all its aspects—not only romantic love, steeped in false conceptions and lofty expectations, but also brotherly love, erotic love, self-love, the love of God, and the love of parents for their children.
• We Have to Talk: Healing Dialogues between Women and Men | Samuel Shem & Janet Surrey (1998)
  • Introduces the author’s Emotionally Focused Therapy technique, explaining how to assist couples by treating their relationship as a love-based, attachment bond that can be healed through the reestablishment of safe emotional connections.
• Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love | Gottman & Gottman (2019)
  • Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust.
• The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples | John M. Gottman (2011)
  • Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times.
• The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts | Gary Chapman (1992)
  • The 5 Love Languages is a practical and insightful guide to the complexities of relationships. It includes assessments you can discover as your love language with your loved one and how to keep the relationship growing through demands and everyday conflicts.
• Calling in “the One”: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life | Katherine Woodward Thomas (2004)
  • Based on the Law of Attraction, which is the concept that we can only attract what we’re ready to receive, the provocative yet simple seven-week program in Calling in “The One” prepares you to bring forth the love you seek. For each of the 49 days of Thomas’s thoughtful and life-affirming plan, there is a daily lesson, a corresponding practice, and instruction for putting that lesson into action in your life.
• I’m OK – You’re OK | Thomas A. Harris (1967)
  • A guide to transactional analysis. In non-technical language, it offers advice on gaining control of yourself, your relationships and your future, no matter what has happened in the past.

Podcasts

• Small Things Often | The Gottman Institute
  • Evidenced-Based Approach to Relationships. Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts. Research-based tips to help improve your relationships in five minutes or less.